As a parent, it is your responsibility to raise your child well. Raising children who are responsible, well-adjusted, yet are not burdened by the world. Today’s parenting style is totally different from an earlier time.
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15 Ways to Improve your parenting skills
There are three areas you can concentrate on while trying to bring in positive parenting.
INCREASE POSITIVE INTERACTION
It is necessary to expose your child to a positive conversation. Here are the few ways in which you can enhance positive communication with your child.
1. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR KID
If you have more than one child, you must spend quality time with each child separately as well as together. If you spend quality time with your child separately it will help you to understand your child in a better way and also improve your bond. At that point in time, you need to encourage your child. Do not use this time to teach or correct your child, just spend quality time with each other.
2.ASK QUESTIONS AND LISTEN TO ANSWERS
Ask questions about his/her daily routine and listen to the answers carefully that will help you to initiate further conversation. Asking questions when your child is young opens lines of communication that will help as your child grows older.
3. ALWAYS SET CLEAR LIMITS
A child needs a structure in order to flourish. Explain the rules to your child so that he/she can understand the reasons why these rules are important. Answer the questions patiently and clearly.
4.PRACTICE WHAT YOU TEACH
Children are a good learner and will pick up habits that they see in their surroundings. Moreover, they look for what is actually good in people around them. Do not use words as I tell you or do as you are told, at that point your child gets confused. Your child will not trust you when you do the opposite of what you ask your child to do.
Always try to delegate the responsibilities to the other people of the family. Get help with the work around the house, or accept the offers on babysitting.
6.EARN RESPECT, DO NOT DEMAND IT
Most parents think that they are parents and they are worthy of respect from their child. On the other hand, the child will not think the same and may ask your authority if you demand respect. If you really want respect from your child, in that case, you need to respect your child in the same way.
7. YOU MUST SHOW AFFECTION TO YOUR SPOUSE IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD
Always show genuine affection towards each other, this will teach your child how adult relationships look like. Moreover, your child will look up to you and your spouse to know what a marriage looks like.
8.BUILD A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM
Try to know how your child interacts with other adult people expect you to, talk to your child’s teacher, coach, neighbors, or even grandparents. This will help you to understand how your child is interacting with other people in society. This will also give you some for yourself to do things and it will also give you some space.
9.UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR YOUR CHILD
One of the most important things your child will know that you love her unconditionally. However, your child knows this unconditional love inherently. You must show your child that you love her on the basis of no parameters. When you confront your child, do not find faults. Or blame your child this will hamper the confidence level of the child.
10. DO NOT FORGET ABOUT YOURSELF
Sometimes, we forget about our self while raising a child or we can say that we bound our self with responsibilities. Spend some time to re-energize yourself as this will help you to become a better parent as well as remove stress.
11. YOU MUST BE CONSISTENT
An unstable environment for a child is more damaging. If you change your rules and behaviors on a daily basis, your child will get confused and they behave badly with you. It is your duty to figure out the list of non-negotiable conditions or rules that are based on wisdom, not power. Properly explain the rules to your child. You must consistent while telling rules to your kid.
12. ALWAYS HANDLE THE PARENTAL CONFLICT BEHIND THE DOOR
When your child sees the conflict between you and your spouse this will create a bad impact on the mind of the child. Try to talk about your approach with each other away from your child. Try to solve it in an adjustable manner this will for your child’s benefit.
13. STOP NAGGING TO YOUR CHILD
Whenever, as a parent, you give attention to your child’s behavior, either positive or negative, that behavior tends to increase. Do not pay attention to it and do not point out the habit. Always praise your child when he /she does something good.
14. SOFT REACTIONS
Sometimes your mood is upset, at that point of time your child did something wrong, try to control your reaction, control your annoyance or irritation and react in a softly.
15. DO NOT DO EVERYTHING
Your child needs to understand that she must learn a new skill that will in return help them. This will only be beneficial for the future. Once your child learns the new skills, try to do it for herself. This is quite difficult to give your child space, but this in the end helpful for full development.
It is always recommendable that try to get in touch with other parents of your child’s friends. This will help you know what other children do or think.
There are numerous Parenting skills books available in the market that will tell you how to become a good parent. Moreover, plenty of people give you parenting advice.